September 25, 2005
Share your experiences; support and be supported
I've been playing around with this idea since the spring of 2004 -- when our second child turned a month old, and my husband got his acceptance letter from Temple's Beasley School of Law.
"Oh," and "Shit," pretty much summed my feelings up.
While I was excited for him to continue his education, happy that he got into his first choice of schools, and I accepted the fact that he needed an advanced degree to move forward in his career, I was scared as Hell. After all, working full-time during the day, and going to classes full-time in an evening program, meant a lot of work for both of us. Basically, he would leave at 6 AM on Monday morning, and we'd see him again when he got home on Friday nights.
Oh, sure -- he'd be home to sleep and eat...but when would we have "family time?" Who'd be there to help when the kids got sick, or when I was about to lose my MIND due to stress? What about the kids -- would they miss him? Would they turn out to be completely resentful, ill-behaved little beasts with no fatherly infulence for four years? What if I got sick? What about my teaching career? When would I get to sleep in, or take a night off, or just go out on a date?
All of these questions, plus a few dozen more -- plus the new ones we come up with every day -- are why I wanted to start this blog.
If you're married, law school and its attendant headaches affect BOTH of you, for good or for ill. It's compounded by trying to work while you attend law school -- even more so if you have children (no matter what their ages).
This blog is meant to not only relate my experiences as a law school widow -- what works and doesn't, fears and victories -- but to act as a venting place for other law school spouses who sometimes feel like they've earned the right to have that "Juris Doctor" tattoed on their behinds, as well.
post yuor stories, your experiences, your fears and hopes, and get some support and feedback from others in the same position!
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